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PMS…Also Known as the Cookie Monster and the Crazy Maker

I think I could just post this blog with the title alone and all of you ladies could fill in your own stories. I decided to write on this because I have talked to countless women, all who say that their “time of the month” is absolutely terrible. I’m included in that group. I recently had a procedure that has helped me a ton with the physical symptoms of PMS. However, the emotional roller coaster ride that our hormones take us and everyone else on is insane. Literally!

My poor son who’s only nine, by the way, and doesn’t know anything about the whole “process” can even tell something is “off”. First, I get really affectionate and clingy. Next, come the tears if someone says “boo” the wrong way. Last comes the full on rage and intense cravings for all things comfort. I can almost always count on gaining at least 3-5 lbs. for that time of the month. The beauty is that once its over, I will generally lose it all because my eating goes back to normal.

The best piece of advice I can give is to allow yourself room to be alone. One of the best things I’ve done is kept a schedule of my cycles on a phone app. Even if I’m later or earlier it will adjust it for me for the next month.  That way, when I wake up feeling “crazy” or “different” I can step back and check my phone. I’m then able to see if this mood change is directly related to my cycle or not. If it is, I cut back on caffeine, chocolate, and basically all the things I want. I make more alone time for myself, and make sure I don’t miss a workout. I also take supplements that are proven to help relieve PMS symptoms. In general, the employees at any health food store will know what to recommend.

I know the last thing you’ll want to do is exercise because your energy may be low, but physical activity releases those endorphins, better known as the “feel good” hormones, which we know are low during that time. I also would suggest that you have a conversation with the man in your life to let him know this is how I’m feeling and this is why. Honesty and acknowledgment is key. One of the best conversations that my husband and I had was regarding the subject of PMS. Any opportunity to help your significant other to understand you and what you are dealing with is an important part off the relationship. It’s a sign of trust and vulnerability. There’s no need to be embarrassed about how you are feeling.

Unfortunately, there’s no magic potion for us to drink to erase PMS, but there are steps we can take to make it better. You aren’t alone and this is a part of being a beautiful woman. Be open, transparent, and willing to discuss it. It will pay off in the end and be a lot less crazy making for everyone involved.

Achea Redd

Achea Redd

about the author

Achea Redd is a mental health advocate, author of “Be Free Be You” and founder of Real Girls F.A.R.T. — a space to empower and equip women with the necessary tools to use their voices and become their best, most authentic selves.

Comments

  1. Thanks Achea!! This blog is so right on time! I have noticed that as I am getting older my symptoms are out of control. My random food fits, hard-to-deal-with emotions, and unmanageable mental state that takes place every month causes more arguments and misunderstandings than I can count. It always seems to be the people that I am connected to the most that get the brunt of my mood swings too. I am definitely learning to inform my husband when I need some “me” time and he totally gets it. Well, he gets it at this stage in our marriage. It was rough when we started out. Lol. Thank you for being so transparent and addressing this issue that so many of us women suffer with in silence every month. I am learning to acknowledge when I am feeling weak and take the time that is needed to nurture myself so that I can be ready to bounce back and pick up where I left off.

    • It does get much worse as we age. There’s a little something called peri menopausal symptoms. Good job keeping your hubby in the loop. Glad you are reading and enjoying the posts.

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